Bad news folks, this blog won’t taste right and it may leave you a little annoyed.
We all fall into two love categories.
Needy and self-centered.
I’ll say it again NEEDY AND SELF-CENTERED. I’m no therapist, but I have enough friends and have had enough relationships to notice this particular pattern. It occurred to me one night while discussing relationships with friends. I thought perhaps it was an individual flaw, but as I begin to think about the limits on relationships and the #1 complaints. They are fall into these two parameters.
NEEDY AND SELF-CENTERED
Note: I will probably offend you, but I don’t care, you need to read this. It may save your relationship life.
I have been loving women for years…Arguably the most difficult sex to love. I have noticed two trends from this. Needy and self-centered.
I caution you not to be quick to put yourself in either category. It changes depending on the love and the relationship.
Don’t think your so special that you are neither. We are one of each and both at the sometimes.
We need and we hold on to our deeply rooted needs of self-actualization, individualism, and selfishness. We preserve ourselves and feel we need to protect ourselves. We don’t trust easily and why should we? One is not worse than the other, but we need to at least acknowledge these dualities exist.
Neediness, is a an unpleasant thing, it really stinks honestly. But shamefully enough, I have been guilty and believe most are offenders at least once in your life. There is always someone who can bring that foolishness out of you. There just is.
It’s your job to acknowledge it and ‘kill’ it. Yes, kill the neediness gene. I believe it to be the most destructive element in any relationship.
I will not admit which I am in my own relationship, to you. But I know my own truth and moment and I try to stay self-aware. Sometimes we fool ourselves into believing truths are destructive, but they actually release us from past demons.
I ask which are you: self-centered or needy? I dare you to answer..I dare you to be honest.