There is a very thin line of power in relationships. You tug, she/he tugs, you tug again. It’s not necessarily a battle to be won, but you have to toe the line, and keep it right in the middle.
The alternative could be disastrous for someone. Everything in life is a power struggle, all of it is a game. I know that is unromantic and a little sad, but we are competitive beings. Why should it stop with our hearts, why should we loosen the power grip with our souls, allowing invaders in to possibly break us, why?
It’s a thin line we negotiate, stay open, enjoy the experience and have fun. But never let go of that line, never lose your whole self in another person, never relinquish all your power. Of course power is an allusion, especially when it comes to the heart.
I know! I ‘ve contradicted myself.
What I mean is, that when it comes to affairs of the heart, maintain your self-respect. That is the line you are constantly negotiating. Be open, but always determine your worth don’t allow yourself to be compromised.
To love is to be open, but don’t be a fool. Don’t ignore those defining moments, pieces of information or cues. Please don’t, they could be the thing that saves you from you.
That is also the line we negotiate, openness vs. losing yourself.
I think? Maybe there is a time when it is alright to lose yourself, I think? But it shouldn’t feel like a loss, it should feel like an exchange, even a gift.
You should feel as though you have gained something or grown.
When people walk into our lives, we should open the door. It should be a choice not a result of some ill-fated action.
This is the line of power we negotiate. A friend of mine always speaks about reserving a little for yourself.
Initially, I wasn’t sure I agreed with this. I thought how could you grow, love, and learn without sharing it all.
I have come to realize, everyone doesn’t deserve all of you and maybe it’s not so bad to keep a little for yourself..
Food for thought:
You tell me..keep a little or put all out there?